Joy does not simply happen to us. We have to choose joy and keep choosing it every day. - Henri Nouwen
0% Effort, 100% Return - Follow your Joy to experience outrageous success! - Amina Makhdoom
Choose Joy. It is easy to say and many I speak to, tell me, "Oh, I do that already, it doesn't work." But, do you, do you really, choose joy? It sounds easy and even cliché, but the practice of choosing joy and living life from a place of flow is a consistent practice, albeit, a super fun practice.
During a particularly hard time in life, I started to choose joy. Not from some spiritual place or even some enlightened world view, but from a place of mere survival. I have never been one to stay sad, angry or depressed. Honestly, I am not a big fan of those feelings... I would rather not experience them. But, I am an empath and as such, find myself feeling lots of feelings more often then I would like. During this particularly difficult time in life, I couldn't seem to find a way to be happy. So I stopped trying. And, instead did little things that brought my temporary relief. The minute I stopped, I would be sad again, but for those few minutes, I was experiencing joy. I needed those few minutes and hung onto them for dear life, a few minutes a day. Sometimes only once a day, sometimes every hour in a day, however I could get it. These were not exactly the healthiest ways to feel joy, though, some were - I watched lots of TV shows I enjoyed as a kid (Scooby Doo) and some other mindless shows (the OC was super popular during this time). There were lots of cupcakes consumed... cupcakes = immediate joy in my world. And, there were long, long, long walks. Walks to playgrounds where I would swing and then do the long, long, long return walk. On some weekends, I would do two of these walks a day. I still do from time to time. All those things brought me joy, though, at the time, I would have called it temporary comfort. Joy, probably would have seemed too far a reach for me back then.
Shortly thereafter, things started happening. Big things, little things, all kinds of things. They started happening by themselves, with no effort on my part. I came across an opportunity to study international conflict resolution at The Hague, which lead to an added one month trip around Europe, which lead to a leave of absence from work, which lead to a whole new career path for me, which lead to my starting my own business. None of these things came from "happy dreams" or even a plan, they just... came. They just happened. And, to this day, I am not quite sure how. It was a conversation that lead to a meeting that lead to a completely different life. And, all the while I was watching the OC, eating cupcakes, and going for long, long, long walks.
That's the first experience I had with understanding it has nothing to do with what I do. I didn't know that then. It was not until years later, when I got sick and literally could not "do" as much as I used to be able to do. I was tired all the time. And, after the smallest amount of work, I had to lie down and rest. That year, I was more successful financially and reputation-wise then I had ever been before. How is that possible... I did a lot less then I had ever done before. But like the earlier period in my life, things just kind of kept happening on their own. This time, I paid attention and realized, the less I do, the more I get.
I have been voraciously reading anything Anita Moorjani puts out. She talks about going to the pier and watching the sunset in Hong Kong while eating an ice cream cone. It brings her joy and she realized, this is the secret to life. Many have spoken about this and it is common knowledge that it is "good" to follow one's joy. What I find most people don't quite get is how powerful, impactful, life-altering and easy following your joy makes getting the biggest, hairiest, hardest goals you ever wanted. Each time I "do nothing" and just have "fun", something wonderful happens in my life.
This April, you can experience this magic for yourself. It is simple but not easy. That is why I created a free program called The Joy Challenge which allows you to practice choosing joy for 30 days to achieve your biggest, toughest goals. It has worked for so many. Big dreams accomplished while eating cupcakes and playing with their kids or sleeping. I invite you to try the Joy Challenge for yourself and experience results like mine and many others, by simply, sprinkling more joy into your life!
For more information on Joy Challenge, visit the website. See you in the Joy Challenge!
I was talking to one of my closest friends last night about the next generation. We were talking about the sense of entitlement and general lack of joy that we see in so many younger than us, even though, they have so much. Then we started talking about the amazing things that they were doing by the age of 20 that took us much longer to master. We laughed at how we sounded like "old people" talking about "those kids". What we both know for sure, is that this generation is going to create some remarkable leaders. Not because of who they are, but because that is what the world needs.
While there are definitely characteristics that define a good leader, the truth is, that the best leaders know how to respond to the situation in front of them. And, they respond in a way that brings out the best of each of the people following them. True leaders understand it is not about them, but about the possibility of what can be created when each person discovers their own potential.
I am amazed by what I am seeing when I look out into the world today. Leaders that are rising up, not because they ever wanted to be leaders, but because they understand that there is work to be done. Today's leaders are coming 100% from passion and care and are learning on their way up. There is always more to learn as a leader. There are plenty who will give you feedback and tell you how they would have done it differently, but, you cannot fake authentic care. The leaders I am seeing today, some as young as 9 years old, authentically care about the cause they are standing for. Today is the day. Now is the time. It is time for each of us to raise fully into who we really are and make this world a better place, in our own unique way. We have been practicing for a long time and the time has come where the world needs our individual and collective brilliance.
I am thrilled to have co-authored a new book, Ignite your Leadership, with eight other amazing leaders. People who daily help others find the light in themselves. To launch the book, we are doing a *free* leadership summit featuring over 30 short interviews from leaders from all industries and paths sharing what ignited their leadership and the one lesson they would share from their own personal journey. I hope you will join the summit, February 13-23rd and also tell others about this book. It is time for all leaders to step up with more authenticity and love to create a world that works better for all of us.
Link to Summit: https://ignitetheleaderwithin.mykajabi.com/
Link to Book: http://motivationalpress.com/Ignite-Your-Leadership/
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest times, if one only remembers to turn on the light. - Dumbledore, Harry Potter
We can never obtain peace in the outer world until we make peace with ourselves. - Ghandi
"Find the thing that brings you joy and just do that. Be happy." This is advice I find myself giving and receiving on a daily basis. It seems silly to talk about doing the thing that makes you happy when there are so many serious issues and problems to face. But the truth is, facing those from a place of anger, fear, worry, anxiety, or any other emotion that is not peace and love, will only bring about more of that which we do not want.
When I talk about the things that make you happy, I mean the real simple joys of life. Today, I was feeling icky. I didn't sleep well last night. The same thoughts were circling in my mind that I had no answers to, and on top of all that, I had to get something done for a client that felt overwhelming. For the old me, these would all be reasons to hunker down and get to work. But the new me knows that nothing good would come of trying to create anything of meaning while feeling icky. So, I went to my go-to joy activity - taking a walk. Mind you, it was 29 degrees out when I left, and I had a conference call that I had to be on in 20 minutes (my walk takes about an hour), and... But, the sun was shining super bright and my soul needed a walk. While I fiddled with my phone to put on something motivational, I heard birds chirping. I didn't put my ear buds in and just listened to the birds. I noticed that lining the road I was walking on were hundreds of bare trees, with no leaves, looking dead and depressed (you get an idea of the ick feeling I was in). As I walked and thought, of course the trees look beaten down, a beautiful, bright, red cardinal flew in the branches. And, then another, and another. I kept walking, and another bird, with a beautiful blue head flew into a different tree. And, then I saw a beautiful evergreen tree. And, all of a sudden, the entire dead scene around me had specks of color in it - a black and white cat in the field on the side of the road, a golden retriever, birds, and a small flower growing out on the side of the road in the dead of winter. That is when I knew, the Universe was sending me a message.
Its not about the LARGER picture scene, because that was pretty dreary. But, it is about the little specs of beauty in a moment. My client was 20 minutes late to our call, allowing me more time to enjoy my walk. By the time I got on the call, I was in a great mood. By the time I got home, the call which would have lasted an hour was miraculously done. I realized I was hungry and went out to grab myself something to eat. Normally, I would consider this wasted time when I had stuff to do - but I was so happy, I knew this would only add to my productivity. It took me about an hour to get the document done. And, while my co-workers were reviewing it, I took a bubble bath. When I was done, I had their feedback and I sent it off. Not a bad day at "work".
When things start to feel overwhelming, our go to is to dig in, try harder, and do more. In that moment, the best thing to do is let go and find something (one tiny, little thing) that will bring you joy. And, when you do, when you go back to the task at hand it will either be handled or you will see it with new energy and new eyes.
The hard part is STOPPING the vibration you are in and forcing yourself to just go do something that would make you happy. That's why I created the Joy Challenge. For 30 days, we commit to doing one thing that would bring you joy. Sounds so easy... but previous challenge participants will tell you it is harder than you may guess. The results of this are astounding - long held goals, accomplished with ease and while people were having fun! Joy really is the secret ingredient. If you are doing something, and in that moment it is not bringing you joy, take a minute to take a break, and do something small that will bring you some happiness. You will see when you go back to the task at hand, it will be easier to do. Join us for Joy Challenge 2017 (for FREE) in April!
The first principle of the 50 principles that opens the Course in Miracles is, "There is no order of difficulty in miracles."
I find myself repeating this to myself multiple times in the day. I find that I am often in need of a miracle. I talk to people who tell me what is going to happen if they... and I say to them all the time... you don't know what is going to happen. You cannot tell me what is going to happen 2 minutes from now, much less with your job or your relationship. But they are determined to tell me how they have tried it before and they "know" what will happen if they heed my advice. To this I reply, "there is no order of difficulty in miracles."
There are three components to fully understand this concept: Belief, Miracle, and Application
Only you can choose what you believe. Whatever you choose to believe is ok and whatever you choose to believe has its own path. For example, if you believe that this situation will never work out, that is your choice. And, there is a good chance that the situation will take a long time (maybe never) to work itself out. The truth is, you have no idea what will happen with the situation. It may seem bad now and get even worse, or it may miraculously get better. I don't know and neither do you. However, what you choose to believe is up to you. What I do know is that believing that things will work out; the Universe always has your back; people are inherently good and want to help you; the "good stuff" is better/more powerful than the "bad stuff" tends to have better overall life outcomes. In my own life, and when I talk to others, it amazes me how easy it is for us to believe the "bad stuff" and how we struggle to believe the "good stuff". What if you took on an experiment for 30 days to believe every little tiny, itsy bitsy thing that was happening to you was for your benefit - was somehow helping you in ways you can never imagine. After we, we have all had an experience (losing a job, terrible break up, health issues) that have lead to amazing life changes that were the "best thing" that ever happened to us. We have seen it with others - someone left someone and the person who was left did this 180 in life and is now the happiest they have ever been. Beauty born out of a perceived "tragedy". Remember - what you believe is up to you. For the next 30 days, believe it is ALL GOOD and see what happens.
What is a miracle?
When I was first getting started with a Course in Miracles, I kept experiencing these HUGE miracles and I would want to tell everyone about them. "You don't understand. I knew that I was not going to get this consulting job, because I screwed it up so badly, and then I got it!!" To which, everyone who knew me was like, "really, that's your miracle?". But it was. Because I knew. I knew how the trajectory was clearly going in one direction and how it did a big, huge uturn and went the other way. Frustratingly, I could not express it fully to another, but I knew. I knew how big it really was. Which leads to our definition of a miracle. What is a miracle?
A miracle is something that is beyond the possibility you have allowed for yourself.
- Lauri DeJulian
Think about it. It is only a miracle because you truly believed it could not be possible. It is beyond what you think is possible in any given moment. If someone is late all the time and they show up on time, we say, it is a "miracle" because we didn't think they could be on time if we paid them! If you get the contract, after you know the proposal was a hot mess, you think, "it is a miracle"! If she says yes to a second date, even though you were a fumbling fool on the first date, we think, "omg, it is a miracle". All of those things are beyond what we think is possible in that given moment. They are small but huge, because you know how impossible it seems and then it happened. Like how I showed up at Times Square at 10:30 on New Years Eve and got escorted to the main stage to watch the ball drop, though, everyone said, "if you are not there by 6 am you are not getting in" or the time I could not get tickets to see Vanessa Marcil in a play in LA and I flew out anyways, and sat outside the theater and that night two producers did not show up and I got first row seats and to got to meet her after the play. These were miracles - only I understand how impossible they were, but they happened. Like when you know how someone is going to react, because he always gets mad about... , and this time, he didn't. That is a true miracle.
Now, that we understand it is your choice to believe and that a miracle is simply something that is beyond the possibility you have allowed yourself. I invite you to use this mantra for the next 30 days, "there is no order of difficulty in miracles". Because there is not. At any time, no matter how sideways things are or are going, you can literally STOP the flow and change its direction completely by choosing to believe that, "there is no order of difficulty in miracles". One is not bigger or harder than the other, it is simply a different way to see the same situation. Once you are willing to be open to the situation changing completely, once you believe that is even possible, you make room for a miracle. You make room for a completely different outcome than what your "logical fight or flight brain" is telling you is possible. You allow the heart space to open and to connect to something much bigger than you. And, once you are connected, "there is no order of difficulty in miracles".
Ever since I have started this blog, I have posted a theme for the new year. Usually, by the day of ephiphany, the theme for the year is clear to me. This time, it was clear to me in December - this upcoming year is the year to care. What I have witnessed most this past year is how desparately people, everywhere, are dying to be cared about. I believe that the issues we see all around us come from a lack of caring. Not a lack of compassion or love, but a lack of understanding that to care includes seeing what is happening and then taking an action to acknowledge the situation.
When I think of how I most want to contribute to the world, I am clear that I want to help each person who crosses my path follow their heart's truest desire in serving each other and the world. I truly believe today, like I did my senior year in college, that if people were loving what they did everyday (at work) that would lead to loving homes and loving families. Since college, I have learned that if people are authentically serving, using their highest gifts, each day, that we would live in a world where war, diseases, hate, and stress would not rule. Each of us individually have a piece of the puzzle to a peaceful, healthy, happy world and only when we each come forward and fully express this piece of the puzzle will we get there. It won't work with one or two pieces, we need every piece of the puzzle to create the beautiful outcome we are hoping for.
In order to do this, each of us has to be able to look upon the current problems of the world, not in a depressed, hopeless, way but instead from the perspective of what do I have to contribute to make any one of these situations a little bit better? When you look around the world, it is clear that there are many different places to contribute - you could contribue to people having clean water to drink, mental health, animal welfare, supporting children with schools, health breakthroughs, building houses for earthquake victims, creating toiletrie kits for homeless people, providing needed health care, getting involved in a political organization, or anything else you can think of. In 2017, I urge you to find your cause. Something much, much, much bigger than you, your family, your community and your corner of the world. Something where you are simply a helper- you are adding a drop in a bucket. You don't have to start a new cause (though, you can if you want), just find a way to contribute to causes already started that are helping others. This part is important - choose one, not 20. There are millions that can use your support, and you absolutely can help them all over time, but choose the one you want to make your focus and ensure whichever one you choose is 100% aligned with your heart. In that heart alignment, the one drop you put in the bucket, will be magnified hundreds of times over.
Second, be present for each person you interact with. While it is wonderful to be helping causes all over the world, the true reason to do that is to clear your heart and make you stronger. I read a book, Purification of the Heart, by Hamza Yusuf, where he talked about how feelings of guilt, anger, resentment, etc create a hard crust on your heart (hard-hearted) and that only by doing things that increase peace, love, forgiveness can you remove these hard pieces. The only reason you are doing anything is to become the person you are capable of being. That thought will keep you very humble. It is not about what "we" are doing for "them" but about how contributing to this situation is making me a better human being. With this perspective, you are grateful for each person you have helped, because you received a great gift in the ability to be of service to them. I read on a church sign yesterday, "the currency of love to a child - your time". We all need each others time. We need those that disagree with us the most to hear our point of view and listen in a non-judgmental way. Instead of asking that from others, be that for others. In 2017, make yourself the commitment that you will take the time to listen and "see" at least one person each day that crosses your path. It sounds so easy and what you may find is how often you are floating through life with your awareness on your smart phone or thinking about the past or future and missing the present moment. See if you can be present one time each day to whoever is in front of you (whether you like them or not). And, bonus, if you can do something to make their life 1% better (which may just be a smile, a compliment, helping them, holding their hand, listening without judgement). It does not have to be big - your presence is the greatest gift you can give anyone in your life.
I have learned that being sincerely present to others is a cure all. If you are lonely, volunteer at a senior center. If you are angry, work with people who have medical disabilities or are dying. If you are sad, spend time with children. Use your emotion to spur you into giving. Make your heartache your inspiration to create something that serves others. I believe it is being made clear to each of us as we look upon the state of our individual homes, our neighborhoods, our countries, and our world, that there is no time left to think about whether or not we want to stand up and contribute our piece of the puzzle. I belive it is clear that the time to think about should I do what I love or should I keep my 9-5 because I am not sure, etc, etc is over. The world needs you. You are the missing piece that the world is waiting for and, we are all in this togther. Your piece connects to mine, which connects to another. If we are all willing to contribute our piece, we are no longer one little puzzle piece, by ourselves in a big, overwhelming world, but part of the most beautiful picture and amazing story of true peace and love for all. I hope you will join me in 2017 to bring more true care into the world. Together, we are the solution to all the things that sit heavy on our hearts.
Namaste - the light in me salutes the light in you. I know that when we use our light to light the candle of another, we lose none of our own light, we multiple the light of the world.
We have all heard the saying, "the truth shall set you free". And, I wholeheartedly agree that that is true. When we can figure out what the truth is and have the courage to tell it, it will most definitely set you free. I am on a truth quest in my life right now. From as early as I can remember, I was very in touch with my truth, as children often are. And, as the youngest, with two older sisters, an extrovert, and a Libra (we balance everything), I was confident in telling the truth. Until the bad things started happening... until I told the truth at a party in front of people and embarrassed my parents, or told the truth about a family situation in my extended family which lead to marital tensions, or the worst case, when I told the truth outside an ice cream shop that lead to the immediate divorce of a new marriage. The truth, as simple as it always seemed, seem to be very complicated when other people had to hear it.
I co-created a group called Being Present to Serve, which focuses on how to manifest money by just showing up, being present to what is in front of you, and finding a way to make the situation 1% better. The group has been very successful and as I reflect on those concepts, I realize that the reason it is so successful is because it has the key ingredient to everything - connection.
When people talk about Near Death Experiences or healing themselves from life-treatening diseases, they have a single theme that runs through their experience - connection.
2016 has been quite a year. After September 11th, I decided to take a leave of absence from my very successful consulting work to study International Conflict Resolution. I felt like I had to do something to make the world a better place - I was feeling completely disconnected from everything. After a very painful few months hearing about every conflict around the globe, I was completely depressed and felt hopeless. I could not see how I could stand up against governments, personal interests, and groups who did not care about doing the right thing or helping one another. I was so upset, that I literally gave up. One of the things I teach is the power of giving up. I love the line from Nothing Stays the Same by Carly Simon, "there is more room in a broken heart". From the place of being broken-hearted, I made a decision. I decided that I could not take on the problems of the world, of any one group, of my country, my state, my city or my county, but what I could do was be the beacon of hope, love, light and peace in my tiny, seemingly insignificant, circle. And, that maybe, if I was good or helpful to one person in that circle, they would go on to cure cancer or broker peace in the middle east. From that moment on, that became my mission.
I went for my daily walks in my very non-reach-out-and-touch-someone neighborhood and widely smiled and said "hi" to each person I passed- most of whom were engrossed in phone conversations, their ipod (it was a while ago), and; most of whom completely ignored me. I waved at passing cars (also, not done in that neighborhood). I baked cookies for neighbors for no reason. And, I found ways to be kind to my family and friends. And, that was it. From there, I was given opportunities to serve on boards in the county and eventually, represent our state in creating policies of inclusiveness. It all started from being kind to my family and friends, and friendly on walks in the neighborhood.
This holiday season, if you are feeling sad, alone, unsettled in any way, I ask you to try something new. First, love your broken heart - they are the biggest gifts for creating change that you could ever ask for. Second, go do for others. Whatever you can - drop quarters near gumball machines at the grocery store, leave a treat on your neighbors doorstep, pick up the phone and call someone who had a tough year and let them know you are thinking of them this holiday season. As I posted in the quote, sometimes the smallest thing you do, make the biggest difference to someone else. In my experience, I found the cure for my saddest moments came from being of service to someone else. The world needs you right now. The you, that you are, in this moment. Not the successful you, the thinner you, the happier you, it needs the broken-hearted you to sit and cry with. And, if you are loving life right now - reach out and touch someone too! Because it wasn't that long ago that you were broken hearted. Pray for others to have the thing you want the most - if you wish your parents were still with you this season, or your spouse, or that you had your health, then pray that all the people around you that "seem" so unbeliveably happy, have good health, and enjoy the time with their loved ones. It is amazing the power of connecting - the power of giving to others that which we desparately want.
From my heart to yours, happy holidays. And, on December 25th, when Christians will be celebrating Christmas and the Jews will be celebrating Hannukah, know that over 1/3 of the world's population will be in a place of peace and prayer... regardless of what your religion is, what a great day to join in the feeling of peace, love, and hope. Together, we can add to the world frequency of love and peace and intend 2017 to be the year when things get better for all.
I started to feel like things were getting hard. And, if you know that feeling, it is not a good feeling - it is icky. And, I am all about Easy. I kept asking myself, "how could this be easier?" and while I came up with a long list of ways to make it easier, none of them sounded fun, and they were all work! Totally the opposite of what I teach, 0% effort, 100% return. I knew hard wasn't right, ick was definitely nor right, "I have to get this done" was the wrong path. I came up with my how to make it easy...
Here are my top five ways on how to make anything easy:
1. Ask yourself, "what if this was easy?" - I know it sounds simple, but it is so often forgotten. I remember once I talked to a wise spiritual woman and she illuminated for me that all the forgiveness work I had done towards my ex, actually now needed to be directed to my ex's new girlfriend. I deflated. Years of work and now I have to start all over again :( I was telling my friend about it, and she said, write a forgiveness letter before bed and set the intention that when you wake up, she will be forgiven. That's it, I thought? That's easy! Guess what... it was!
2. Let your subconcious mind figure it out for you- You know how they always say your mind is a powerful thing... well, it is! And, it is a problem-solving GENIUS! It can find solutions you would have never thought of - all you got to do is give it a good problem to solve. Try some of these - "Mind - how can I LOVE what I do for a living?". "Mind - show me how to bring $10,000 easily and effortlessly in my life?" "Mind - show me the best way to handle this very delicate situation." And, guess what, it will. All it requires is for you to ask your mind to show you instead of getting wrapped up in your mind to find the answer. Here's the difference - use the mind as an external tool that you delegate solving the problem too, instead of sitting inside your mind and thinking of possible solutions. You know how when you can't remember someone's name and then you walk away and do something else and voila, you remember thier name. That is because your sub-concious mind was working on that "problem" the whole time, while your concious mind was rocking out to Taylor Swift!
3. Command it into Being (i.e., say it IS so) - Deciding is one of the MOST powerful things you can ever do. You can decide things work for you or they don't. You can decide people like you or you can decide they don't. You can decide money easily flows into your life of you can decide it doesn't. Deciding is powerful. Remember when you made an important decision. Remember how it felt. When you truly decide, you decide. You don't think what if, or should I have, you decide and you move forward confidently. Many of us decide and 30 seconds later, un-decide, then 30 seconds later decide differently. DECIDE that whatever you are working through will be easy, will come to you in an unexpected magical way, and will be taken care of for you!
4. Let it GO (or, Let Go and Let God)! Do you remember a time when something really "bad" happened to you and now it is one of the best things that could have ever happened to you? That happens all the time. So you are in a yucky job, or your health isn't great, you know what, thinking about how terrible that is, just makes it worse! Hand over all the ickiness of the situation (and you can call it icky) to your higher self / higher power / Universe /God and say, "Take this icky mess, I am done with it and transform it into something awesome". To transform your hard stuff into easy stuff, you have to let it go and separate it from yourself. The hard stuff is not true. It is not you. And, it is not what the Universe wants for you. It is not your karma. It is not something you deserve. It is something that is happening and can be transformed perfectly, in perfect timing, in the perfect way - but you gotta hand it over first!
5. Nurture your JOY! Want to make it really easy? Go do something FUN! Yup, you heard me. Stop working, stop typing, stop jornaling, stop thinking and get up, move your body and do something you LOVE to do! Paint, draw, spend time with people you love, watch an old movie on tv, take a nap, go for a walk, get yourself a yummy cup of hot cocoa (or better yet, a cupcake) and make yourself happy! Your vibration is EVERYTHING. Want it to work out quickly - douse it in joy and it'll happen quicker than you can imagine!
We are doing Joy Challenge again this year! If you want to join us for our 2017 Joy Challenge on how to make it easy with 0% effort, 100% return, you can sign up here!
I, like many others, have been highly impacted by our recent presidential election. I was excited when I was voting for Barrack Obama for many reasons, but the biggest reason of all was his platform of hope. I was excited for a president who moved from you are either with us or against us to a message of "Yes, we can" and "Together, we can".
I was not like many others - I always knew that Donald Trump had a good chance to win. While I hoped he would not, I knew it was a real possibility. Now that it has happened, as a spiritual person, the question is what does this mean and what is my lesson in all of this.
The first lesson in his winning is one of compassion and love for our fellow man. Ask yourself, as I am asking myself, where do I have judgment of those who voted for Trump? Where do I have judgment of Trump? Where is it my duty to speak my truth and where have I crossed the line to bad behavior? These are questions that can help put the focus where it should be - on how we can use this to be more loving. In a Course in Miracles, it states, everything is either love or a call for love. This election is a call for love - for each of us, regardless of your side. And, as a country, we are not responding with love, but with fear (which includes anger and hurt). Instead, see this election for what it truly is - a call for a large number of Americans for love.
As I read the facebook comments from those that supported Trump, I hear a group of people who feel attacked, pushed out and marginalized. In their moment of victory, they feel like the have done something "wrong". I was talking to a couple, both of whom voted for Trump, and they asked if I was going to vote for him. When I explained that I am Muslim, so therefore, I really could not in any kind of good conscious vote for him, they seemed confused. They did not see how my being Muslim had anything to do with Trump. For all of us that are highly fearful for what will come of us and all of the progress that we felt we had made for being American, just like everyone else, I see that those that supported Trump did not vote against us, they voted for him.
As for consequences, I am not naïve. When we allow the kind of rhetoric that has started already, there is no good place for that to go. But, let me call first and foremost on myself, and then each of us, to not take part of that rhetoric in the opposite direction. One of my favorite quotes is from Buddha who says, Hate is never ended by hate, but by love. I am asking myself right now, have I been loving enough? And, where can I bring more love to this situation.
When we bring love to a situation, the person we heal is ourselves. Today, I offer a remedy for the feeling of grief, the fear for the future, and the feeling like you are alone - you are not. Each person around you, regardless of who they voted for and the reasons they chose to vote for that person, is feeling alone, sad and fearful for the future. We all share that together. That situation always calls for love. When your child comes to you and says, I hurt myself, you do not push them away, but instead pull them close and offer to kiss their boo boo. Each of us is looking for our thoughts and feelings to be heard and validated - instead of being the one who asks for that today, be the one who gives that to another today.
This month I am focused on gratitude and generosity. I invite each of you to join me in giving more of yourself and your love to those around you. It is so needed. And, look for someone, who feels differently from you, and especially reach out to them and give more kindness. The result is the America that we all want and love. Remember, grace heals and hope floats.
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