The first principle of the 50 principles that opens the Course in Miracles is, "There is no order of difficulty in miracles."
I find myself repeating this to myself multiple times in the day. I find that I am often in need of a miracle. I talk to people who tell me what is going to happen if they... and I say to them all the time... you don't know what is going to happen. You cannot tell me what is going to happen 2 minutes from now, much less with your job or your relationship. But they are determined to tell me how they have tried it before and they "know" what will happen if they heed my advice. To this I reply, "there is no order of difficulty in miracles."
There are three components to fully understand this concept: Belief, Miracle, and Application
Only you can choose what you believe. Whatever you choose to believe is ok and whatever you choose to believe has its own path. For example, if you believe that this situation will never work out, that is your choice. And, there is a good chance that the situation will take a long time (maybe never) to work itself out. The truth is, you have no idea what will happen with the situation. It may seem bad now and get even worse, or it may miraculously get better. I don't know and neither do you. However, what you choose to believe is up to you. What I do know is that believing that things will work out; the Universe always has your back; people are inherently good and want to help you; the "good stuff" is better/more powerful than the "bad stuff" tends to have better overall life outcomes. In my own life, and when I talk to others, it amazes me how easy it is for us to believe the "bad stuff" and how we struggle to believe the "good stuff". What if you took on an experiment for 30 days to believe every little tiny, itsy bitsy thing that was happening to you was for your benefit - was somehow helping you in ways you can never imagine. After we, we have all had an experience (losing a job, terrible break up, health issues) that have lead to amazing life changes that were the "best thing" that ever happened to us. We have seen it with others - someone left someone and the person who was left did this 180 in life and is now the happiest they have ever been. Beauty born out of a perceived "tragedy". Remember - what you believe is up to you. For the next 30 days, believe it is ALL GOOD and see what happens.
What is a miracle?
When I was first getting started with a Course in Miracles, I kept experiencing these HUGE miracles and I would want to tell everyone about them. "You don't understand. I knew that I was not going to get this consulting job, because I screwed it up so badly, and then I got it!!" To which, everyone who knew me was like, "really, that's your miracle?". But it was. Because I knew. I knew how the trajectory was clearly going in one direction and how it did a big, huge uturn and went the other way. Frustratingly, I could not express it fully to another, but I knew. I knew how big it really was. Which leads to our definition of a miracle. What is a miracle?
A miracle is something that is beyond the possibility you have allowed for yourself.
- Lauri DeJulian
Think about it. It is only a miracle because you truly believed it could not be possible. It is beyond what you think is possible in any given moment. If someone is late all the time and they show up on time, we say, it is a "miracle" because we didn't think they could be on time if we paid them! If you get the contract, after you know the proposal was a hot mess, you think, "it is a miracle"! If she says yes to a second date, even though you were a fumbling fool on the first date, we think, "omg, it is a miracle". All of those things are beyond what we think is possible in that given moment. They are small but huge, because you know how impossible it seems and then it happened. Like how I showed up at Times Square at 10:30 on New Years Eve and got escorted to the main stage to watch the ball drop, though, everyone said, "if you are not there by 6 am you are not getting in" or the time I could not get tickets to see Vanessa Marcil in a play in LA and I flew out anyways, and sat outside the theater and that night two producers did not show up and I got first row seats and to got to meet her after the play. These were miracles - only I understand how impossible they were, but they happened. Like when you know how someone is going to react, because he always gets mad about... , and this time, he didn't. That is a true miracle.
Now, that we understand it is your choice to believe and that a miracle is simply something that is beyond the possibility you have allowed yourself. I invite you to use this mantra for the next 30 days, "there is no order of difficulty in miracles". Because there is not. At any time, no matter how sideways things are or are going, you can literally STOP the flow and change its direction completely by choosing to believe that, "there is no order of difficulty in miracles". One is not bigger or harder than the other, it is simply a different way to see the same situation. Once you are willing to be open to the situation changing completely, once you believe that is even possible, you make room for a miracle. You make room for a completely different outcome than what your "logical fight or flight brain" is telling you is possible. You allow the heart space to open and to connect to something much bigger than you. And, once you are connected, "there is no order of difficulty in miracles".
Ever since I have started this blog, I have posted a theme for the new year. Usually, by the day of ephiphany, the theme for the year is clear to me. This time, it was clear to me in December - this upcoming year is the year to care. What I have witnessed most this past year is how desparately people, everywhere, are dying to be cared about. I believe that the issues we see all around us come from a lack of caring. Not a lack of compassion or love, but a lack of understanding that to care includes seeing what is happening and then taking an action to acknowledge the situation.
When I think of how I most want to contribute to the world, I am clear that I want to help each person who crosses my path follow their heart's truest desire in serving each other and the world. I truly believe today, like I did my senior year in college, that if people were loving what they did everyday (at work) that would lead to loving homes and loving families. Since college, I have learned that if people are authentically serving, using their highest gifts, each day, that we would live in a world where war, diseases, hate, and stress would not rule. Each of us individually have a piece of the puzzle to a peaceful, healthy, happy world and only when we each come forward and fully express this piece of the puzzle will we get there. It won't work with one or two pieces, we need every piece of the puzzle to create the beautiful outcome we are hoping for.
In order to do this, each of us has to be able to look upon the current problems of the world, not in a depressed, hopeless, way but instead from the perspective of what do I have to contribute to make any one of these situations a little bit better? When you look around the world, it is clear that there are many different places to contribute - you could contribue to people having clean water to drink, mental health, animal welfare, supporting children with schools, health breakthroughs, building houses for earthquake victims, creating toiletrie kits for homeless people, providing needed health care, getting involved in a political organization, or anything else you can think of. In 2017, I urge you to find your cause. Something much, much, much bigger than you, your family, your community and your corner of the world. Something where you are simply a helper- you are adding a drop in a bucket. You don't have to start a new cause (though, you can if you want), just find a way to contribute to causes already started that are helping others. This part is important - choose one, not 20. There are millions that can use your support, and you absolutely can help them all over time, but choose the one you want to make your focus and ensure whichever one you choose is 100% aligned with your heart. In that heart alignment, the one drop you put in the bucket, will be magnified hundreds of times over.
Second, be present for each person you interact with. While it is wonderful to be helping causes all over the world, the true reason to do that is to clear your heart and make you stronger. I read a book, Purification of the Heart, by Hamza Yusuf, where he talked about how feelings of guilt, anger, resentment, etc create a hard crust on your heart (hard-hearted) and that only by doing things that increase peace, love, forgiveness can you remove these hard pieces. The only reason you are doing anything is to become the person you are capable of being. That thought will keep you very humble. It is not about what "we" are doing for "them" but about how contributing to this situation is making me a better human being. With this perspective, you are grateful for each person you have helped, because you received a great gift in the ability to be of service to them. I read on a church sign yesterday, "the currency of love to a child - your time". We all need each others time. We need those that disagree with us the most to hear our point of view and listen in a non-judgmental way. Instead of asking that from others, be that for others. In 2017, make yourself the commitment that you will take the time to listen and "see" at least one person each day that crosses your path. It sounds so easy and what you may find is how often you are floating through life with your awareness on your smart phone or thinking about the past or future and missing the present moment. See if you can be present one time each day to whoever is in front of you (whether you like them or not). And, bonus, if you can do something to make their life 1% better (which may just be a smile, a compliment, helping them, holding their hand, listening without judgement). It does not have to be big - your presence is the greatest gift you can give anyone in your life.
I have learned that being sincerely present to others is a cure all. If you are lonely, volunteer at a senior center. If you are angry, work with people who have medical disabilities or are dying. If you are sad, spend time with children. Use your emotion to spur you into giving. Make your heartache your inspiration to create something that serves others. I believe it is being made clear to each of us as we look upon the state of our individual homes, our neighborhoods, our countries, and our world, that there is no time left to think about whether or not we want to stand up and contribute our piece of the puzzle. I belive it is clear that the time to think about should I do what I love or should I keep my 9-5 because I am not sure, etc, etc is over. The world needs you. You are the missing piece that the world is waiting for and, we are all in this togther. Your piece connects to mine, which connects to another. If we are all willing to contribute our piece, we are no longer one little puzzle piece, by ourselves in a big, overwhelming world, but part of the most beautiful picture and amazing story of true peace and love for all. I hope you will join me in 2017 to bring more true care into the world. Together, we are the solution to all the things that sit heavy on our hearts.
Namaste - the light in me salutes the light in you. I know that when we use our light to light the candle of another, we lose none of our own light, we multiple the light of the world.
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