If Only I understood that I am in the perfect place right now.
If Only I trusted the Universe has the best plan for me.
If Only I could see how all of those "bad" decisions lead to the best moments of my life.
If Only I knew that this was perfect, exactly as it is.
If Only I would allow the miracle to show itself to me.
If Only I would understand that no one has it figured out. And, no one's life is how they expected it would be.
If Only I remembered there is someone out there who would LOVE to have my problems (all of them, in bulk, happily, joyfully).
If Only I remembered how much I have in any given moment, instead of the one thing that is missing.
If Only I realized that life is made up of the little moments and thoses are the ones to treasure.
If Only I could see how brilliant, wonderful, and amazing I am right now (I don't need anything else).
If Only I could see myself the way so many in my life see me - the real me.
If Only I took all the time I spend thinking, analyzing, and worrying and invested it in making the world a better place.
If Only I remembered that this time will fly by; I will not remember this incident; and that so much good comes at me at every moment.
I spend a lot of time manifesting. I spend a lot of time helping others manifest. Manifesting is a normal activity for me and I am always amazed at how well it works for me. Lately, my manifestations have gotten lightening fast. I spend a lot of time thinking about how I manifested the things I did. When I get something particularly fast, I analyze what I may have done differently to get it so quickly and then I share those tips with you. Recently, I noticed a deep connection between integrity and manifesting.
I was recently in a situation where I believe someone took advantage of me. It was the feeling I got in addition to the action that was taken. I'm doing a series of training classes, and as part of that, we have had the locations order in breakfast and lunch for the participants to have more time in training. I have asked them to order, and then payed for it myself (and i will be reimbursed by the client). Most places have ordered lunch around $200 (or less). One place, ordered lunch over $1000! WHAT?!?!? In addition, I kept asking for a receipt, and they never gave it to me, etc, etc.
Now, I am proud to say, I did what I would tell any of you to do:
1. I admitted that I have NO IDEA if they did this on purpose. Maybe this is a normal ordering lunch for them. I do not know what their intentions are, nor will I ever.
2. I noticed the story I was telling myself and asked if I could find facts to tell the EXACT OPPOSITE story, and of course, I could. I could find all the facts to tell the story of how they did this to provide participants with a good lunch to make the training and the company look good, etc.
And, then, this is what I concluded. They may get a very nice free lunch. And, they very well may deserve that very nice free lunch. They may have used this as an opportunity to get what they want (at the expense of someone else). And, if they did, the company will more than likely still pay for it without saying anything to them (a thought that was filling me with fire earlier). If they do, the gain will be a really nice lunch and the loss will be their integrity.
Losing your integrity is one of the most painful ways to be. Your integrity is everything. When manifesting, we tell ourselves a number of things that are not yet real in this 3D world, but that we are connecting with the energy of to be real. Sometimes, I say, I lie to myself for a living. In a post about integrity, this can sound really bad. So, why is it ok with manifesting? Because of the intention behind it. When we manifest, we tell ourselves something to create a desired outcome. Our mind, our body, our cells have to believe what we are saying and feel the way they would feel if we have it. In order to do that, they must connect with our words, thoughts, and feelings.
If our words, thoughts and feelings are unbelievable, because we have used them for short term personal gain, then no matter how well we apply the rules of manifesting, our own body will not believe it and thus will not allow our manifestation to come into reality. This month, I invite you to join me, as I really step up my integrity practice. Everything from complaining, blaming, finding fault, to thinking no one would notice if I just did this one little thing - you are probably right, no one would, but your integrity would suffer. I love to complain in my head. I love to get really dramatic and complain, complain, complain. I think it is ok, it is just in my head... but as Marianne Williamson says, "that is the worst place it can be!". This month, we want to keep "our heads" (i.e., our thoughts) as clean as possible. This month, we want focused thought on that which we do want and to clean out the junky mess of the thoughts that do not serve us and do not create the outcome we desire. It is Fall Cleaning time, y'all (I have been traveling to the South a lot recently). If you are not manifesting your desires, make a list of all of the ways, you are not in integrity in that area of your life, and commit, this month to doing one, simple action to improve your integrity with that area.
I love this song by The Chainsmokers and Coldplay called Something Just Like This. And, I love the message from a manifesting standpoint. Sometimes, we think we have to have it all figured out before starting. What I know about manifesting is that it is a process of failing forward. There is such a desire to understand how to, and study the masters, all great ideas to get the basics down, but at some point, you are clear what you want "something just like this" and have to trust that who you are today is good enough to get it. Knowing what you want it to feel like is the only component you really need to manifest. It is all about the feelings and when you relate to a feeling and can say, I want something just like this, you are ready to manifest. When we do, though, many times, we get caught you with how it is supposed to be and what we have and do not have. The song references superheros and fairytales and wanting things but not feeling like we have enough skills, knowledge, etc to get them.
I've been reading books of old
The legends and the myths
The testaments they told
The moon and its eclipse
And Superman unrolls
A suit before he lifts
But I'm not the kind of person that it fits
She said, where'd you wanna go?
How much you wanna risk?
I'm not looking for somebody
With some superhuman gifts
Some fairytale bliss
Just something I can turn to
Somebody I can miss
I want something just like this
I want something just like this
The message of the song goes on to have someone affirm, I don't need all this, I just need you where you are today. That is a HUGE message. The reason that we get clear on our fairytale bliss and our superhero desire is to take action because right now, somewhere, there is someone waiting for what you have to share with the world. They need you where you are right now, not where you will be when you have it all figured out. The time to start being of service, to start creating and to start manifesting is now. You don't have to have it all figured out, knowing that you want "something just like this" is a great place to start. There is a good chance that the people that need you the most are right next to you right now. You don't have to go looking for them. Just start connecting with the energy of "I want something just like this" with everything you see that brings you joy, and the path will show itself to you with no effort!
One of the best, ever, success principles I learned and applied was to mimic the masters. I attribute my success in school and my career to finding the person who did it the best and copying what they did until it was second nature. At that point, I started adding my own Amina-flair and making it my own.
I am dedicating this blog to some of the conversations I have in my head, the things I say to myself, and especially the things I say to myself when I am faced with a situation that I find challenging. Over the past few weeks, I have been noticing the stories I tell myself when things do and do not go my way. I have been noticing the thoughts I think when I am happy and less-than-happy. It has been insightful to see my go-to thoughts and comments, when I am tired or unhappy and my go-to thoughts and comments, when I am happy and fulfilled.
Here are my favorite Master Manifestor thoughts and comments:
- I got this!
- This is going to be one of my best stories to tell when I figure this out.
- I am so proud of how far you have come.
- You... really... CAN... manifest... ANYTHING!
- Just try and see what happens.
- Ask your Angels to intervene and make it happen for you.
- Ok, God, just you and me - you can take over now!
- I get what I want.
- I always get what I want.
- I have the best luck!
- Things always work out for me!
- I always get paid!
- Money always finds me!
- Money is never an issue.
- I am so loved by everyone and everything in the Universe. I allow this love to wrap around me.
- Remember the time I manifested myself into the heart of Times Square on New Year's Eve? This is easier than that!
Here are a few of my favorites when I am feeling sad, frustrated or upset.
- If I could have anything I wanted right now, what would I want to be happening instead? Ok, God - all yours.
- What is the underlying feeling I am having right now? What can I do to feel a little bit better?
- Wow! This is REALLY not working out at all for me. I wonder if it is a sign it is not meant to be?
... But, I really want this. Ok... handing this over for a miracle.
- Dear God - I am not in my right mind right now. I am so __________ (scared, worried, frustrated, angry). Help me! Help me! I ask you to change my perspective. Help me see this entire situation differently. I know everything is here to serve. Please show me how this serves, because right now, I am feeling_________.
- Who could I ask for help with this?
- What other miraculous way could this get done?
And, finally... for the big dreams. The ones I can get paralyzed just thinking about.
-I AM A MASTER MANIFESTOR.
- Things ALWAYS work out for me.
- Thank God I do not need to know the HOW.
- I believe in miracles.
- This is too much for me right now. I am going to go do something else and let this work itself out to a bite size piece for me.
- Ick, that was not a very happy thought. Undo! Undo! Return to sender!
- I am so sorry. I love you so much. I will always be right here for you. Do not worry about how this is going. It will work itself out. There is nothing else you need to do right now. I love you.
Remember, you are whatever you say you are. If you want to be a Master Manifestor, like me, simply DECIDE that you ARE. Say to yourself, I AM A MASTER MANIFESTOR. And, use some of my statements to get out there and create the things you want with 0% effort, 100 return!
Want to learn to be a Master Manifest too? Check out my Coaching Programs to work with me one on one!
This is the time of year, where in the US, we pause and take a moment to celebrate our freedom. There is a different feeling in the air, it is lighter and happier as people relax more, connect more and enjoy the celebration of our independence. That feeling - the one of waking up and doing whatever sounds like fun, that is the essence of freedom. Freedom is a big word used in my coaching practice - people are looking for financial freedom, freedom from their problems, and freedom from feeling less than. The real place to gain our freedom is from our thoughts!
I am not the type of person who is against the ego, our mind, or our thoughts. While I definitely am very heart-centered, I choose to think of my heart as the Commander-in-Chief of one of the most powerful armies of the world, my mind. My heart knows where to go, what moves to make, and how to clearly meet the objectives for a peaceful life built around service. To get there, I need to strength of my mind. My mind is my best friend in that, when it gets a command from my heart, it can figure out exactly how to execute it to precision. It is truly amazing. In order to do that, I need to give my mind all the resources it needs to be fully successful, or at the very least, remove the obstacles in its path to success.
This month, I invite you to engage in a practice to amp up your love for your mind, its amazing ability to tell stories, the thoughts that it throws out there (mainly to protect you) that can be a huge stop sign, and all of the other little things it does that trip you up. Realize, that your mind is truly like a large Army. Willing and able to march in any direction at a moments notice, but, left with zero direction, will go in a million different ways all at once. This month, we practice building our freedom, by using the strongest tool in our toolkit, our mind. And, in order to do that, we start by nurturing it and giving it all the love and support it needs to continue to help us achieve every one of our dreams and heart's desires.
This month we build our ability to create freedom from the less than desired circumstances, by building up our biggest ally in creation, our mind. Here are some mind-loving practices:
1. Meditation - you have heard it, you know it is good, but you still are not doing it... I have been there! Take all the distress out of it. Take five minutes a day (set your timer) to just sit with stillness. There are a bazillion ways to meditate. Find a guided meditation/visualization (my favorite is Tree of Life with Jack Canfield, who he learned from Deirde Hade). Listen to some classical music and just get lost in the music. Stare out into space or nature. Walk a labyrinth (to find one near you go to labyrinthlocator.org).
Need a little pick me up? Want to let the Universe know what you are expecting and have it delivered? Check out my One Command video/prayer.
90-10 the practice that not only changed my life, but saved my life. I really, really, really do not like it when people are unhappy with me. Ok, not all people, just all the people that I care about (which is only the majority of the world's population, or roughly, everybody). It is painful, uncomfortable, icky. People used to tell me all the time, "Not everyone is going to like you, Amina." And, I would nod along to what I knew was true, but in my head, I would secretly think, "I could get them to like me if I really wanted to." And, in that thought, was born my co-dependent personality behavior. I can be happy, if everyone around me is also simultaneously happy. Unfortunately, people around me did not stay happy and thus really inconvenienced this Utopian way of life I wanted to live.
Worst of all - I caught myself in all kinds of manipulative behaviors to try to make other people happy, so that I, too, could be happy. This formula lead to a lot of unhappiness. Then, I was talking to Tamara Green, one of my favorite coaches in the whole world, and she asked me to practice 90/10. 90% of the time, I was to tend to my needs, my happiness, my wants, and my desires. 10% of the time, I was to tend to the needs, happiness, wants and desires of other people. I was living 90/10 already, just 90/10 the opposite direction. Tamara's advice seemed impossible, and I told her so. She reminded me it was a practice and a mindset and asked me to boldly take it on. She also had a lot of faith in my ability to do this (I, admittedly, had no faith in my ability to do this, but total faith in my willingness to try). I told a friend of mine about it, and she started practicing it right away to amazing results. As happy as I was for her, this did not help me. Now this was impossible and only worked for other people.
I tried hard to do 90/10. The only way I could practice it was by reading. When I was over giving, I would stop, go upstairs, pick up a book and read. I love to read. It brings me great joy. Leaving icky situations and reading was my 90/10 practice. I literally did not know how to practice giving myself 90% of my own attention. This was the only tangible thing I could think of to do to practice. Then the miracle happened. You know the miracle. It is the thing that only you can understand how miraculous it is. I could spend pages explaining it to you all in painstaking detail, and it would be like, "really, that is your miracle? That is my Tuesday afternoon." So... I won't do that. Instead, I will say, I was in a familiar position. Someone who I loved dearly was less than thrilled with me and I was unable to function. So upset that I had made a mistake. So upset that I had missed the signs they were sending and stepped into a crappy situation and made it worse. I could easily see every little thing I did wrong in this situation. And, I started to cry (also my go to) and then all of a sudden I stopped. I said to myself, you are ok. I got up, went to my room, got in bed, and started reading my book. I was so happy, engrossed in the story. I almost (but not quite) forgot that someone was even upset with me.
Since that miraculous night, I have not yet gone back. Sure, there are days when I am no where near 90/10, but they are few and far between. I have come to see how doing what is best for me, is truly best for every single person around me. When I am truly aligned to my purpose, my passion and my mission, the people around me are not inconvenienced, there is no sacrifice, we all win. I have no idea how the physics of this work, which is why I think it is a miracle. There have been numerous examples. Days where I have not felt like cooking happen to be the exact same day that my husband wanted to go out to dinner. Days I have not felt like working, clients have called to apologize and ask if we can reschedule. The Universe keeps showing up and taking care of me. 90/10 could also be called follow your joy.
The best thing you could do for anyone that you love, is be happy! And the very worst thing that you could do for anyone that you love, is be unhappy, and then ask them to to try to change it, when there is nothing that anybody else can do that will make you happy. If it is your dominant intent to hold yourself in vibrational harmony with who you really are, you could never offer any action that would cause anybody else to be unhappy. - Excerpted from Chicago, IL - Sunday, April 25th, 1999
The best part of all of this is how all of the relationships in my life have changed. Now, instead of thinking/feeling/saying, "don't you understand how hard this is for me and I could use some support...", I say, "this is hard for me, I need to take care of myself so I have the means to handle this situation." Everyone is off the hook. I GOT THIS! Yes, really I do. I am amazed at how many things I can handle. Things I thought were so scary are really not. As soon as I started practicing 90/10, I realized that I can handle more than I ever thought possible, which has sky rocketed my self confidence through the roof.
However, the first step was the hardest. That step required me to be very present. To hear what was being asked of me and to bravely follow my heart. These are steps I can do easily in many situations, but not when it comes to the people I love the most. I have a hard time saying no to them. I don't want to. I want to be there for them. What I realized is that I am capable of giving so much more to those that I love when I take great care of myself. This June, in Adventures with Amina (my free Facebook group), we are going to spend the month truly loving, honoring and taking care of ourselves, so that there is more us to give to the world! I hope you join us.
Learn more about Tamara Green at http://www.tamaragreen.me/
The hardest part about writing this post, was coming up with the title. I have been asked quite a bit lately for support by people, because their Significant Other, or Best Friend, or Parent, or, someone else close to them, thinks they are NUTS for believing in manifesting, law of attraction, etc to solve ACTUAL problems. They come for validation. They also may come secretly for the, "so there" to these people in their lives. I thought... why not write about how to handle situations when the one you love does not see what you see.
I write a lot about changing other people's behavior, which cracks me up, because, we all know... you can't. But... you kind of can. Let me explain. Newton's third law of physics states, "for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction". That is what I will use to walk through the process to change someone else's behavior.
In every interaction you have, the person you are interacting with is, reacting to you.
Other Person + You = Interaction Outcome
In order to change the outcome of the interaction, either you or the other person have to change. And, since you can control your behavior, we focus on changing the variable that is YOU. When we do this, the following will happen, either the other person will change, or, the interaction outcome will change, or... BOTH will change. Here is how you get BOTH to change.
1. Allow the other person to be right. I will be brief on this one, but it could be its own post. If you honestly think about it, no one really ever thinks they are the one that is wrong, in the moment. (We can see it after the fact, or sometimes we can see it in the moment, but most of the time, people truly believe they did what they had to do and were right to do it). So, your love, DOES NOT think they are wrong. And, they DO think YOU are wrong! There is a saying that I love, would you rather be right or happy? Many of us, may say, happy, but in reality, our behavior chooses being right over happy most of the time.
Let's use an example of this. "This LOA stuff is good for finding parking spaces, but we have real financial issues that need you to take action!". Your response, "you are right". I can feel some people cringing at that response. That is it? But, I do not agree! When do I tell them how truly WRONG they are?
Here is the truth. They are right, by their perspective. Allowing someone to have their perspective is a huge gift and the number one way to lower resistance to hearing your perspective. If they believe that statement, then, by their life experience, they are right. Let them have it. This will not result in hours of stress reduction for you, but is a KEY component in shifting the outcome of the formula above. Your new affirmation, "I love letting other people be right" (because I know I benefit)!
2. Ask for the Guidance. There are no accidents in the School of Life. We are all students on our own, unique spiritual path. And, this person, whether you love them or have only interacted with them one time, is your teacher. They are there to allow you to truly learn a life lesson that is trying to get through to you. This is not the first time this lesson has come up, and unfortunately, if you resist, it will not be the last time. I tell my coaching clients, "let's learn it this time and never have to deal with it again".
For this step, get quiet, go inside, and ask:
Wait to hear each answer and know that you are healing a pattern that is no longer serving you.
3. Be Loving to Them. When we go to someone with our idea or thoughts, we want their love and support. We are reaching out to them. When we do not get it, we withhold our love. We believe our pain comes from them withholding love from us. In reality, your pain comes from withholding love from them.
When your love disagrees with you, pour more love onto them. Be a good partner to them, by listening to their perspective and ideas and validating them. Ask them:
The truth is this person loves you. More than likely, they are worried about your path and afraid you will get hurt or they will get hurt. They are in a protective stance. By hearing them out and validating them, you create a lot more space for the change.
4. Walk the Talk. This is the HARDEST one! I know, they are all challenging! At the end of the day, if you want to be a loving being, then, be that to the people closest to you. I would never recommend starting with the people closest to you, because it is the most challenging. It is much easier to be loving and kind to a stranger than your significant other, children, parents. Basically, the people you love the most in the world and would die for - but also like to get annoyed at on a regular basis.
Here is how you walk the talk:
The Native Americans have a belief that the antidote to any poisonous plant grows within reach of the poisonous plant. In the same way, the solution to any problem you are experiencing is within reach of the problem itself, i.e., within your reach.
On Saturday, I went and walked a labyrinth. It has been a while since I walked one and every time I do, I get deep insight into myself, who I am and what I need to do next. If you are interested in the spiritual path of walking a labyrinth, check out my previous blog post, Walking the Labyrinth of Life.
This is the message I received on Saturday after I walked the labyrinth. I hope it is as beneficial to you as it was to me.
What is a problem?
A problem is your belief that what is happening at the moment is not aligned with what you want or need. For example, if you do not have enough money to pay your bills. You want to be able to pay your bills and therefore, the gap between not having the money to pay your bills and your desire to pay them is the problem.
Before you start searching the area around you for dollar bills, let's discuss how the solution lies within reach of this problem.
The solution is simply (simple but not by any means easy), a chance to see the problem for what it is. The problem is an experience that is being created in this moment. An experience you'd rather not be having. Therefore, the solution is to connect with, see, hear, smell and taste the experience you would rather be having as if you are having it.
The solution to any problem is the realization that the problem is not real, no matter how real it feels.
By switching your mind's focus to only see the solution, only see what is right with this situation, and to only see the outcome you want (and feel how it would feel to have that desired outcome), you can literally un-create the problem. You un-create it, because the problem is not receiving the fuel it needs to exist - your energy.
In this moment, I un-create anything that I perceive as a problem. Instead I openly, joyfully, whole-heartedly accept everything as it is right now. To anything that happens with this, I say a whole-hearted, "yes!" I choose to no longer live in the problem but instead live in the potential. I choose to be fully present, fully loving, and fully respectful. I choose the experience of feeling loved, honored, respected, cherished and fulfilled at all times. The pain I perceive is not real. My power is real.
In a few days, we will start Joy Challenge 2017. The reason it is called Joy "Challenge" is because however easy it seems to choose to stay in joy, choose to see the solution, choose to focus on what we want versus don't want, in reality, it takes a little practice. During the month of April, we practice daily to choose Joy instead of "reality". It sounds easy... and... it is... sort of. Give it a try - it's free, it's fun and it's life altering. You can find out more at Joy Challenge 2017.
You know that feeling when everything you touch turns to gold? You cannot believe your good luck. You go to Target, and you find a parking spot right up front... that NEVER happens! Or, you forget to pay a bill, and someone calls to remind you and you take care of it over the phone with no stamp, no fuss? Or, how about a time when you know you did something wrong - forgot something, messed something up, sent an email that had a mistake in it, and then you go to correct it only to find that by some miracle, it had never gone through in the first place? All of these are examples of being in the flow of life. They are seemingly small to anyone else, but you know what a true miracle they really are.
When you are in the flow, you know it. It is a magical place. You think of things that you want to experience or do something with, and then the phone rings and someone is offering you a solution to the thing you were just thinking you should put on your to do list. Life gets easy.
I remember one of my very first Abraham lectures where they talked about letting go of the oars. The point of the talk was about how we are paddling upstream, using all of our energy to go in against the natural flow of the river and that we would be served much better by simply, letting go of the oars. I was very taken by this concept because of the craziness of it... did they understand what a wreck my life would be if I let go of the oars? If they only knew how carefully managed and created my little world was, they would understand that what they were asking for was complete chaos. In truth, as wonderfully organized and perfect as my world was, it was hard work. I was tired. And, I am not sure it would be truthful to say I was happy. The reason I was so upset hearing this was because I desperately wanted it to be true. I wanted to let go of the oars and see what would happen. I wanted to believe that something even more amazing would happen. At the time, it was a bridge too far and I was not able to truly let go of the oars.
Then, life did was it does. It gave me an opportunity to let go of the oars. Not a happy, pretty, gift-wrapped opportunity, but a scary, frightening one. I was sick. I was super tired. I did not have the energy I needed to manage my perfect, careful world. I had to let go, simply because I could not hold on.
That is when the miracles started happening. It is when the work that I needed to do got done by someone else through some sort of a miscommunication and I got credit for it. It was when meetings started getting cancelled or changed to phone in meetings from in person meetings (so no commute in LA traffic was necessary). It was when people started coming over with homemade soup for me (having no idea I was unwell, they just had the idea and popped by hoping I would be home!). Things just started happening through no effort on my part. And, the year I was sick, I made more money than any of my previous years. How this was "logically" possible I cannot tell you, because I truly was doing the bare minimum. However, I learned how this is spiritually possible. I learned something that has changed my life.
When you are in the flow of life, you get everything you want and need with 0% Effort, 100% ease.
I learned that when you are in the flow, oars just get in the way.
I wrote about this experience and many others I had by trusting the flow of life and offered a practice to allow others to experience this magic. As part of my personality, I like to understand things. I like to learn them. I like to replicate the results. And, then I like to teach them to others. I did that with 0% Effort, 100% Return. Last year, my dear friend and coach, Jeannette Maw, suggested I lead this 30 day experiential learning for my co-creators at Good Vibe University. What started as a simple exercise to show how being joyful could result in you getting your biggest dreams became the Joy Challenge. This April, we will be doing the Joy Challenge again. This is a 30 day FREE program to allow you to experience what happens when you let go of the oars in a completely safe and supported environment. All you have to do is add joy to your life, the Universe will take care of the rest. And, the Joy Challenge program will give you many moments of joy per day as well as a community to keep your joy vibes high, so that the Universe can deliver on your biggest goals with 0% effort on your part.
Are you ready to see what is possible for you? It worked for me. It has worked for many others. Are you willing to try something new for 30 days. Are you willing to allow the possibility that by simply following your joy, you could get what you really, truly want? 0% Effort, 100% Return. Isn't it time to allow the good that is yours to flow through you easily and effortlessly? Create the space for it to come in, through Joy, and watch the miracles occur as you throw away the oars! Sign up for the 30 Day Joy Challenge today!
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