Boundaries

You know that person or situation that just pushes your button?
Makes you have that knee jerk reaction despite your hours of zen like, Buddhist mediation?
That situation that just makes you cringe?

The natural next step is to blame the other person and tell yourself, "I need better boundaries." But, do you really?

Instead of building a wall of boundaries, I suggest opening deeper.  When you realize that in truth, no one can hurt you without your consent, you can see that there is no need for the wall.

Perceived Pros of "The Wall" aka Boundaries

Actual Facts about "The Wall" aka Boundaries

 - You believe you are clearly stating what you will and will not tolerate.

 - You believe that there is right/wrong, good/bad.


 - You believe you are making your world safer.

 - You believe you are taking care of yourself.

- You are seeing the situation with yourself in the center (staring) role.

 - You are actually stating what you can and cannot handle at this point in your life.

 - People are having the reaction to you that is based on their pre-programing and has almost nothing to do with you.

 - You are making your world smaller.

 - You are missing out on a life experience that will help you grow spiritually.

 - The situation was never about you and is an opportunity to remember your true greatness.

Remember the saying, sticks and stones can break my bones but words will never hurt me. 

That wisdom comes from an inner knowing of your point of power, which is your choice. You can choose to see anything as an attack.  That is a choice.  You can choose to see nothing as an attack, also a choice.  In the world today, we are seeing lots of symbolic gestures that have meaning to the people who are doing them, and, we see others who have taken those gestures to mean something different (an attack, a battle cry, etc).  Your point of power is always your CHOICE on how you PERCEIVE the world and its actions.

Part of being GREAT is to know that you are GREATER than life's circumstances, other's opinions or reactions, and living in that greatness.  Moving beyond your boundaries and standing in your knowing of who you are, how you behave and interact is the work to stepping into your GREATNESS.