One of my favorite books is, Working on Yourself Doesn't Work by Ariel and Shya Kane. They have three principles to transform the way you relate to yourself. This month, in my Facebook Group, Adventures with Amina, I decide we are just going to "drop" a current problem for a month. No more thinking, over-thinking, analyzing, discussing, or figuring it out. For one month, we are putting the problem on snooze. If Facebook can let us put a person on snooze for a month, then putting a problem on snooze for a month seems like an even better idea.
In my life, I have found that when I intensely try to solve a problem, I not only do not solve it, but end up creating about 20 more problems with it, and leave myself feeling like a total failure. During The Joy Challenge in April, we put a goal on the back burner for 30 days while we focus on doing one thing each day that brings us joy. This month, I am trying that with something I feel like I have to figure out - put it on the back burner and instead of focusing on joy (though, I highly recommend that) focus on being here now, not in my brain processing and over processing. This can be referred to be as being present, being at peace, and even being in joy.
In the book, they talk about their three principles to instantaneous transformation:
- Anything you resist, persists - yup, the more I think about how to do something, the more problems, issues, and ick I come up against
- No two things can occupy the same space at the same time - all the time I am thinking and searching for a solution, I am missing the present moment and the millions of opportunities that are presenting themselves for a miracle outcome
- Anything you allow to be exactly as it is will complete itself and disappear - I think of this as a tantrum, if you just let the tantrum run its steam, it will eventually stop and move on. I remember one day wanting to cry and not doing it, because I was afraid if I started I would never stop... I cried for about 8 minutes and then was over it and felt much better. This fear, that we will be stuck here in this place forever.
I like to practice this from time to time, and when I do, I call it floating. I associate floating with not doing a darned thing. You just lay there (for me, soaking up the warm sun) and relaxing. I think relaxing is a major spiritual principle that does not get enough time and glory. So much good comes from doing nothing. So much good comes from letting go and dealing with it another day. When I was a kid, I loved a series of books called Sweet Pickles. One of the books in the series was Goof of Goose. Goose, the main character's house was in disarray, and if anyone said anything to him about picking up or cleaning up, he would say, "not today, I can't today, maybe tomorrow". The book ends with it being the next day (aka tomorrow) and something happens and Goose realize he needs to relax more, and he then starts the day with "not today, I can't today, maybe tomorrow". It is hilarious and perfect. So, during this month of July, my attitude whenever a pesky thought comes up is to say, "Not today, I can't today... I am relaxing, maybe next month".
I know from my practice with Surrender, Miracles and Law of Attraction, that the quicker I let go, the quicker things get resolved for my higher good easily and effortlessly. Solutions that I could not have dreamed up come flying in... letting go, surrendering, relaxing, is a practice that invites in miraculous outcomes. This month, I invite you to join me in letting go and floating. Let the Universe, who loves you and is wanting to bring out your highest good, or God, who deeply cares for you and wants your highest good, to find the solutions, while you jump on your big float, grab a glass of lemonade and float into relaxation! If we need to, we can still pick it up tomorrow (or in our case... next month)!
May you easily find the solutions you are seeking. May the things that seem too hard and too difficult, transform before your eyes to some of your most beautiful life experiences. May you experience the transformative power of relaxing and handing over your biggest dilemmas to the One that Knows All. May you spend this day, and every day, at peace in your soul - physically, mentally and spiritually. And, so it is and so it shall be.
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