This is what I have to offer the world right now. I do not know if it is enough, but it is what I have.
Each of us have moments where we question our true brilliance, it is just part of life. I just got out of a conference with Brendon Burchard, author of The Charge and someone who has had 7 multi-million dollar product launches over the past 5 years. During the training, he admitted that he still has doubts and insecurities come up. Having them come up, totally normal. Having them stop you, unacceptable. So, how do you actually side step the doubts and insecurities? Today’s post is about three major shifts you can make right now, easily, that will help you shift those feelings when they come up and as an extra benefit will make you feel more alive then you have in ages!
1. Focus on contribution
You know something that someone out there does not know and would LOVE to have access to. Remember that. Remember when you were a new mom? Would it have been helpful to hear the perspective of someone who had already raised children? What about when you were interviewing for your first job? Would it have been useful to talk to someone who had already gone through the process? Same with learning to drive a car, ride a bike, run your first marathon, the list goes on and on. There are so many things you have already accomplished that someone has not yet. So focus on helping the person on the path behind you. I think Michele Obama said it best at her speech at the Democratic National Convention, “When you walk through the door of opportunity, you do not close it, you reach behind you and help someone else”. Providing your life experience is an amazing gift. The beauty of focusing on contribution is that you remind yourself, this is not about you and your insecurities, but it is about the value you can provide to another. This comes from a place of love and giving and activates your heart to contribute to the betterment of the whole.
2. Trust your Internal Guidance System – your Heart.
Your heart is the part of you that connects to the larger world and universe. Your brain is your army, it will do whatever you command it to do and go in whatever direction you command it to go. But, if you do not know what direction you are headed, your brain, gets distracted and starts going in all directions. Your heart sets your direction and your vision and is aligned to something bigger than you. You can call this God or Universal energy. Your heart is always guided so trust it and listen to it. I will be sharing more tips in the upcoming weeks on how to truly engage your heart.
3. Acknowledge your Greatness
Spend time each day…yes, each day, acknowledging your accomplishments. Most people who think they do not have something to contribute have not spent any real time looking back at their life and celebrating their successes. If you looked back at your life and instead of seeing every failure, every rejection, every dream that was not realized, saw all the accomplishments, each time you overcame fear to accomplish something, all the people you connected with and loved, all the times you helped others, and all the times others supported and encouraged you, would you have a different picture of your life right now? Focus on the value you bring… every day! Not just the huge shining moments, but the person you smiled at today, the person you helped, the kindness you showed a co-worker, the friend you connected with, and the love you showed your family.
I am throwing down the gauntlet; here is my challenge for you… I want you to commit today, right now, to go out to the world and provide value to someone and tell me and each other about it. Comment below and tell me one way you showed up in the world, today, as yourself and added value. Now, if any thoughts come up about I don’t know what I could do – I encourage you to re-read this post! Each of us add value all the time – to live a fully expressed life, you have to recognize when you do and I guarantee that when you share how you contribute, you encourage others to do the same! So, if you don’t do it for yourself or if you think the way you contribute is too small, think of all the other people who will read how you contributed and think “hey, I could do that too”. I am turning over my page for you to inspire each other! I love taking risks and inspiring you, but today, I want to invite you to join me by being the person who inspires by contributing from the heart! I am so excited to read what you all do!
Until we talk again, remember, Life gets easier when you follow your Heart!
9/10/2012 09:32:22 am
What started as something selfish, turned into the opposite. Originally my website was set up to promote my writing and performances, many from my upcoming memoir You’re Not Pretty Enough (YNPE). The title refers to something my ex-husband would say to me which is why *ahem* he's my ex.
Thanks for sharing Jen - WOW! I am so happy to hear of the progress and of how amazing it is when you set off in one direction, all the other things that occur. The videos on your site are beautiful and such an important topic for women of all ages. Love it! XOXO
Wow, what a coincidence - I had mine in mind, and it just so happens to be related to Jen's reply above, regarding the "It Gets Better" project for bullying.
9/11/2012 03:05:17 am
Thanks, Stef. And cheers to YOU. Being authentic and genuine is such a wonderful gift to give. xo
I wrote 2000 words in my book today, because I am committed to getting the message out there that will help people move from the question, "Who Am I to Write a Book?" and answer it in an empowering way that helps them get over the fears & blocks holding them back and write their book to share their story and change some lives. Thanks for sharing your post. It's awesome!
9/11/2012 01:34:18 am
I acknowledged and appreciated a good friend of mine. I sent him a message telling him how much I appreciate him and how happy I am that he's been in my life. I told him specific things that I appreciate about him and that I'm grateful for. And then I said that I wanted to make sure he knew how special he is and how much he means to me, and that he really KNOWS it and BELIEVES it. His response... he said, "Thank you. No one has ever said that to me."
Thanks Susanne - one of my favorites and a good reminder for me too. Just to remind the people in our lives how much they mean to us. Brendon challenged us to be the best at everything we do - what would it look like if we were the best parent, best partner, best friend, best co-worker - I am pretty sure we would acknowledge people more in that role. Thanks for the important reminder! XOXO
9/11/2012 03:25:09 am
I opened up my home and invited several work colleagues over for brunch. I shared some of my culture through food and art, letting people see another side of me that is much more personal and private. It felt great! I received several emails from guests that they appreciated getting to know me on a more personal level and that they enjoyed learning about a different culture.
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