Through my experiences, I have found an absolutely magical trick that can get you out of any kind of negative feelings towards anyone… quickly. It is pretty simple… pray for their happiness. For the sticky, hairy situations of life, you may need to do this for 3-5 minutes every morning for a month, but if you do, you will notice that the person and the situation literally start to magically alter. For example, your boss gets a lateral transfer to a different office location. Or your co-worker decides to find a new job after working at the same company for 35 years. Or, your mother in law for the first time ever compliments your outfit. I have heard all of those stories, plus tons of magical other ones (your honey randomly walks in the door with long stem roses).
Here is the basic premise - we are all doing the best we can with the resources we have. Now, you may or may not believe that statement. But, this is what I will say. You only hurt yourself by not believing it. Why walk around thinking people want to harm you? It may or may not be true. But, how does it feel if you believe it is true? Now, how does it feel if you believe it is not true? Always choose to believe what makes you feel the best. Here is why – you will never know what the other person’s true intention is, even if they tell you. Have you ever been in a situation where someone told you their “true intention” and they lied? Yup – so you will never really know. Have you ever been in a situation where you were sure beyond a doubt that someone had a bad intention, and then found out you made it all up in your head and the other person never had any negative intention for you? For this reason, it is best for you to believe the thought that brings you the greatest amount of peace.
For some of us, the best we can do is absolutely atrocious, and that is the truth. But, all of us know what it is like to be the person who everything you touch falls to pieces. We have all been there. And, as such, you can see in the behavior of others, that at that moment, they are that destructive force, that completely lost human being, or someone in great pain to be acting so unkindly, unjustly towards you. Even the most malicious people have to be in great pain to act out of such malice.
Instead of making someone bad or wrong… which our ego would LOVE for us to do, make them injured and hurt in your mind. By doing so, you create a very powerful shift. Instead of someone who has power to hurt you, you make it that person a child who is having a tantrum and you see yourself as the person who is capable and able to manage that. And, as you would with an innocent child, who is behaving badly, you send them love and hope they get their needs met so that they do not continue to behave poorly.
This is how it works: For five minutes every morning, pray for their happiness. Here is a sample prayer below.
Dear Universe – Please provide _______________________ with the things they need to be happy today. For I know, as they are happy, I am happy. For whatever I ask for another, I receive for myself.
Let __________________________ be happy. Let them be healthy. Let their dreams come true.
Let life show up big and support them in their path. I know their path is about them and has nothing to do with me. I bless them and I bless their path.
May she/he be happy. May she/he be happy. May she/he be happy. May she/he be happy.
May she/he be happy. (good mantra to keep saying through the day as well).
Help me see their innocence today. My mind has found all the ways they are wrong. Help me see that they are your innocent creation. Help me see them the way you see them, dear Universe/God.
Let this difficult situation become a blessing for me. Let me learn something valuable from this very difficult interaction so that I may better walk my path. Let me give as I wish to receive. Let me be the light where there is darkness. Let me be kind and gentle even in the harshest situations. Protect and uplift my heart, so that I can be in this situation and know that I am being the very best me I can be.
Try that every day for 30 days and see the magical transformations that occur in your life. Comment below – I would love to hear what happened as you tried this process.
Hi! Welcome to my blog, Lunch with Cinderella. I love writing about my life experiences and the fact that they may help spur some cool experiences of your own. If you are here, leave a comment... I read them all and love hearing from you!
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