True confession - that affirmation is still aspirational for me. Currently, I base my happiness on a lot of external factors. The least of which include the weather, and the worst of which include other people (who, have you noticed, are totally unpredictable?). Today, I woke up in a great mood and within the first 10 minutes of my day I got information which immediately turned that happy into anxious, worried, and generally icky feelings. And, just like that, I lost my own happiness.
My new habit has been to start my day with a walk. As I got dressed to go, the general malaise feeling followed me and I found myself dragging my feet (for 30 minutes!) from getting out the house. A walk is a sure fire mood-shifter for me, but once in that ick state, it is hard to even do the things that I know will make me feel better! When I finally got walking, I was still lost in thoughts of worry. And, then I saw my daily Abraham Hicks quote jump up on my phone.
Tell everyone you know: “My happiness depends on me, so you’re off the hook.” And then demonstrate it. Be happy, no matter what they’re doing. Practice feeling good, no matter what. And before you know it, you will not give anyone else responsibility for the way you feel — and then, you’ll love them all. Because the only reason you don’t love them, is because you’re using them as your excuse to not feel good.
Excerpted from Asheville, NC on 4/30/05
And, there are days and moments, where sometimes just a simple reminder is all it takes to shift your mood. And, there are other days, where I can listen and read 100 of these before I feel a tiny, bit better. But, today, was the day where I just needed the reminder. And, I realized that I could feel ok, no matter what. It reminder me of my Non-suffering practice. It reminded me that I get to choose if and when to give up my Peace. It reminded me of Who I am Really Am and the power that is my ability to choose the way I want to show up in the world at all times.
Those of you who know me, know that I am into astrology. I just find so much of what they say to match my life experience. While I don't fully know it or study it extensively, I keep up with the eclipses and retrogrades. And, I know that July is going to be a full month of stuff - good stuff, big stuff, changing stuff, just stuff. For that reason, I thought this is a good time to remind myself of the fact that I can be happy no matter what. I get to make that choice. I do not have to give up my happiness based on another person and their personal drama, or an external event which I cannot control. I can be happy anyways. It is a really empowering feeling to know that I own my own happiness, and honestly, my own peace. They are mine and I get to stay in them (or lose them) based on what I decide. Don't let your mind fool you, like mine did this morning, and tell you that these things are out of your control. Take a moment to remind yourself of Who You Really Are and get your happy back!
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